67. "WTF!?" Podcast Are You Motivated for Change "with" Favazza

I'll share all my fucking wounds. Well, you know, a lot of people won't, and I don't understand why, if you,

do you feel

in the moment because you're not inside your head trying to avoid the conversation when it gets uncomfortable.

This is your transformation station. And now your host, Greg Favazza

ladies and gentlemen. Welcome back to your transformation station. I am your one and only your show host your leader. No, not really your leader. No. I believe that is the diplomatic executive that makes all the decisions for us here in the U S but I am your mentor. I am your mentor today is a show low. So low day. Yeah. Where is this thing going today? We don't know. But how has everybody been doing? It's been a while since I've been on the mic doing a solo. I miss doing solos. I feel like it really allows my personality to fly out, to lurk, to linger, to get in and everybody can soak up what I'm putting down. Nah,

nah, nah, nah. Oh,

it's been a long, long week, but I love it. I love it. I love being a dad. I love being a student. I love being who

I am now.

Have you guys been saying that to yourself? Do we wake up in the morning and do we remind ourselves right. One, our day is about to kick off. That we love ourselves,

or

doesn't even have to be that it's just more of a, some sort of daily affirmation reminder that you created. Nobody else, everybody else's affirmations. They work for them, but it doesn't work for you. That's what I've noticed. If I take the time to put it together. I am more likely to continue it rather than finding somebody else, somebody else's proverb and saying it over and over again. Now we can say, okay.

Yes.

From a Christianity standpoint, there are Proverbs biblical. That we could utilize. And that works too. That's just fine. But for me, what I'm saying is I'm trying to get the results. So if I were to instill the effort to do the thing that I'm trying to do versus doing some copying, someone else's work or having somebody else do it for me, Less likely that I'm going to maintain that and I'm not going to believe in it. It's only going to be Berry surface. Have you guys done that? Have you tried that before? Have you exp am I the only one that's saying this where you. Research something that you could find that would help you and doing anything. This is, this is all universal thought here. So stay with me if you can, and you can't, well, you just sit on the sidelines and take notes, but for us applying this method that we take, it's not always long-term. But I've noticed if I were to create the very thing that I'm trying to create and go down that path, I'm more likely, it's like let's I created our mission statement, understanding what our intent is in short term goals, long-term goals, these very self-explanatory things. And when I say self explanatory, we all think that. Are they, I mean, I'm 30 years old and I still need to review the fundamentals. I know in my pre the military, in order to be an expert, you have to master the fundamentals. Are we doing that? Are we mastering the fundamentals? And don't fucking tell me that you do, but you really don't.'cause we know plenty of professionals, regardless. We can sit for an example, doctors. I know there's plenty of fucking re uh, reports, articles. I've read a couple books that illustrated then blatantly forgetting to wash their hands prior to conducting surgery. These are simple things that we take for granted and then assume we do, or the fact that we've reached a certain point in time where we don't need to do it anymore because we have seniority box in your city. Doesn't matter. You still have to do what you're supposed to do, because if you get lazy, You're slowing your team down. You're slowing your family down. You're you are not helping the rest of the, the culture, the rest of the organization. You're not helping yourself. If you have that mentality that you don't think you need to do it anymore. I know that's what I'm struggling with and I'll come out. Admit that shit is then I feel like I shouldn't have to do it, but that's wrong. It's a w it's wrong. It's the wrong mentality.'cause it just shows all over your face. And who wants to be around that type of person, an autocratic individual, just demanding shit and telling people how to do it, but they don't fucking do it themselves. I feel like that was the majority of influencers. Yesterday. And still today that people are getting in front of large crowds and tell me people how to do it, but they're not even doing the shit that they're saying. That's hypocritical as benign as bullshit. I'm here with you living the dream, living the life that we're all living together and I'm struggling. I'm sweating my ass off grinding just like you are. Are you motivated? I'm fucking motivated. I'm motivated to get my old life back, but improve that old version of myself into the version that I'm trying to get to. And then by that time, I will have a new individual idea that I want them to be. What about you? What are you doing? That's why I'm here. I'm here for it to be your mentor. I'm here to guide you, to push you, to tell you everything you're doing and to reinforce you if it's right, or if it's wrong, or if I don't fucking know, I'm going to find out what it is and give you that information. That's why you give me the trust to listening to this podcast. And I have my trust in you that you will apply.'cause nobody wants to listen to my voice and not act on it. I can't help it. I listened to my voice and I'm fucking motivated to go do something, but I get it. I fucking get it. I'm a, I'm a full-time dad with my significant other of course, but it's my firstborn son that he's about four months now. And I'm also a blended. Family I'm uh, I'm fathering a blended family. Come on, Greg, stay with this. I'm bothering a blended family. And first time homeowner full-time student online, I got less than a year getting a fucking bachelor's degree, and then I'm going and to, or, uh, organizational consulting. I'm gonna look at a corporate consulting because we need to restructure organizations today. That mindset. Of how they feel like company culture, culture in general, inside any organization. I know that shit's fucking flawed. I was a part of the largest organization in America and it's fucking flawed. And at that's flawed, everything else is flawed. We're just not looking at it hard enough. We're not digging deep enough to analyze and say, what is wrong? Are you. Are you doing it? That at your job, are you in a leadership position and are you looking for ways to improve? Not just yourself. We get that, but your company culture, your, your employees, wellbeing, the efficiency. How about your home?

What about your

family? Are you improving the relationship with them? You know, this all fucking interconnects, it's malleable, everything I'm talking about. It's trans is transferable. It's malleable. I don't know who the, you guys get that I feel like you do because we all have the instinct to recognize patterns. It's a primitive understanding. So you must. What are you doing? Are you just getting by day in and day out, waking up and reacting to the day? I know I'm having those moments.

I hate

these moments and I talked with, uh, Simon Trevarthen travailing notes, traverse. I talked to him about these consistency habits, he's little applications. And he told me I shouldn't kick myself in the teeth because I missed a day. It's hard. Cause I want to kick myself in the teeth. I want to bash my face into the mirror and be like, Greg, what the fuck is wrong with you? Why aren't you doing what you say? You're doing it angers me because. I am a man of my word. And if I can't be a man of my word to myself, and I feel like that ripples out, I feel like that can affect my decision-making. I feel like that can affect the people I love as far as being able to say no, so I can be.

At the bus stop in the

morning or in the evening, or my

little, my little girl,

rather than doing a recording, I feel like I can really be a better parent, a better

guardian, a better, a better

all around individual. Cause that's why we're here. This isn't just a leadership podcast. This isn't any kind of fucking leadership podcast. This is authenticity. This is me ripping the guts out of life and looking at what is wrong. I'm focusing on leadership, but you think that just applies to business? Fuck. No, everybody's goddamn later. Everybody can take accountable. That's what we're looking at. We're looking at the principles, the philosophy, the outlooks, the success habits. We're looking at the standards. I want to illustrate military standards and how we should live. And now that sounds scary to people. Oh my God. Military you. Oh, there's this sounds like it's a lot of work. Oh my God. Fuck. No, it's not a lot of work. It's easy. If you can wake up and take care of a child every day, you can do the military standard. It's that? It's just you being fucking lazy by not taking more than what you're already doing, because what we have an excuse, we have things that we're constantly doing. Yes. We all have things that we're constantly doing, but if you want more out of yourself and you're looking back 20 years later from now wondering why you live your life and regret it's because you didn't make that decision. Now here this moment, as I tell you, That you should probably start implementing something of a structure that will put you in the direction you want to be, rather than just settling for what has already came. Are you, are you just settling? I'm not, fuck. No, I'm not. I went through over a hundred relationships to find the right individual. I don't give a fuck what anybody thinks and you guys should have that mentality too. You should be okay with being open about yourself. I'll share all my fucking wounds will, you know, a lot of people won't and I don't understand why, if you, do you

feel

in the moment. Because you're not inside your head, trying to avoid the conversation. When it gets uncomfortable, we need these conversations. You need these conversations. I need these conversations. I'm trying to frame the show. So everybody understands

this. Is,

uh, how to learning th outlook. This is, this is how you, this is how you become this person. You're striving to be. I just, I hate saying like cheesy shit. Like, I don't want to give you a marketing answer of branding answer. I want you to know the art, the authenticity of what I feel and what I feel.

I don't have.

Like, there's like a level between one and a hundred. I feel like I only have either one the lowest level or a hundred where I just blatantly tell you everything. And it freaks a lot of people out. I don't get why it freaks people out because it's too much people aren't used to it. Who gives a fuck what they think don't get. If you're still here listening then fantastic. You made the right choice because then that means you have a head on your shoulders. You want to do something, but for those that don't want to, or maybe I'm just not your type that's okay. We're all. Okay. We all need certain ways to approach a problem. And if I'm not the right guide for you, I hope you find the right guy. That's what I wish for. I wish everybody gets the right mentor and the right mentor for me that I wished is somebody rip out my guts and hold it from my face and say, Greg, this is what you're doing wrong. This, this, this, and this. If you would've just stopped this shit a long time ago, you would have been in a better position than you are now. And the position that I'm in right now can't get any fucking better because I love where I'm at. But we're when I'm thinking about is financially, professionally, what if I made different decisions? Would I still be here? Probably not, but that always comes across my mind. I wonder. But then at that point, when I'm wondering, I wouldn't change anything for the word. I love my newborn son. I love my significant other. I love my blended family. I love my labradoodle. I love me. No fucking photos, please. You're damn right. You got to have that mentality. You got to wake up in the morning, look in the mirror to say no fucking photos. Because you are the fucking star of your life. You are the leader that people are looking up to because there's someone around you as taken it in. That's watching, that's learning just as you are right here on your transformation station.

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